I so need to vent right now! Do you know what i'm sick of? I'm sick of people being rude towards other people who have a lot of children, and who are pregnant as well. So, here is the story....
We are getting rid of our cats because Eran and I are sick of cleaning up after them. In between the hair, and the hair balls that they throw up, and the litter box. One of the cats is also peeing all over our dirty laundry,Ethan's car seat, the couch, and the girls chairs. GRRRR!! We are just sick of having indoor cats. So anyways, someone off of Craigslist took Pumpkin, and a very nice man who works for Siamese Rescue is going to take our smaller cat, Cookie (who has been the culprit behind the peeing.)
So today I drove all the way down to Southport Animal Hospital in Lee's Summit with all of the kiddo's to drop off cookie. Thats not a fun ride with 3 young, cranky kids. So I walk in with Ethan on my hip, BriAnn and Emma dancing behind, and i'm carrying the cat in a cat carrier. First, a lady that was there with her dog said, "WOW, you have your hands full!" Thats a comment that I get almost EVERYTIME I go out of the house with the kids. And I fake laughed and said, "Yeah", all the while, i'm thinking, "My back hurts, my ligaments hurt from our growing baby. I really don't want to be standing here holding Ethan and the cat with both of my girls running a muck, just to have the same old conversation each time I go out." And she said, "And your pregnant again?!" I said, "Yup, I am." And she said, "And how old is your oldest?" I said, "3". And she said, "Way to go momma!" That was one of the nicer comments I have gotten from a total stranger.
So when I got inside, the lady at the front desk had me fill out a "pet surrender form", and one of the questions on there was "Reason for giving up your cat?" And I put down, "We have another baby on the way." And she looked at me and said, "You know how that happens, right?" And I said, "What? That cats don't get along? (That was another one of the questions), and she said, "no, your reason for giving up the cat....you have another baby on the way. You know how that happened, right?" And I just thought to myself, "You did NOT just say that to me!" And she said, "And you already have 3 kids?" OH MY GOSH!!! That was the rudest comment that I have EVER gotten from someone! Its like she is thinking that i'm being dumb and irresponsible for being pregnant again. When in fact, it was very much our decision to have a large family and to have them so close together. I can't believe that she was soooo rude to me! Its like they love the people who adopt a pet, and treat the people who give them up like they are the scum of the earth. I was furious and hurt when I left!
Anyways, does anyone else get comments like that when you are out in public? And what are your responses to their comments?
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That was a rude comment. Whitney Belliston said that she always got that too, because she had a lot of children close together. I get some people asking me hat same question when they find out you are expecting again, but they are ones that don't have the joy of having a big family. The comments I remember and cherish and focus on are the people like Sue Phillips and Brother Bowen, that said, "Good for them." "How wonderful that those children are coming to such good parents" "What a blessing."
My response to anybody is how wonderful parents you both are, and how blessed your children are to come to your home. Children come when they need to, and how they need too) We know that all too well in our family. They also go when they need to, and with Joshua, we learned how important the plan is for each persons life. Maybe next time they same that ignorant comment about "do you know what causes that", maybe say or at least think it in your mind that it is caused by a lot of prayer and a lot of love. I love yo sweet Aubre. Your arms are full, but what a glorious full.
Thank you Grandma Snow! That's what mom's are for. What kind words for Aubre.
We don't have kids to make our lives easier, just better. I'm sorry that they upset you.
I have had those comments with only 2 kids and one on the way... I think it is sad.
I was with a dear friend one day (she was pregnant with her 8th). A lady who had never had children asked her kinda rudely if she was having ANOTHER baby and she said "yes" very confidently - then added "If my body could I would have more!" The she added -"When your old who is going to take care of you?!" I had to smile...
I also really appreciated Grandma Snow's comment - what a neat woman.
Oh Aubre what a bummer that some people have to ruin our happy lives for a moment. You and Eran are some of the best parents I know so I think you two should have lots and lots more kids. And what a shame for people to make such a comment when they do not know what a loving home these kids have.
Grandma Snow is right on!
Like I told you at "the big fruit", I get that same comment nearly every time I go out too.
Looks like you've got your hands full - those words are the bain of my existence!
Now I hardly even acknowledge the person saying it. I don't know why people take such awful offense to lots of kids (not that 3 is even a lot) but they do!
luvs, aby
Wow, I can't believe people say that. I haven't gotten any comments like that, yet... this post was a good warning for the times to come.
Just remember that people are ignorant and they choose to be that way. Maybe some of them are envious that you can have children, not that it gives them any right to say things like that. Ignorant people should just keep their mouths shut. I got comments about having a child right after we got married. You could just tell them that somebody needs to bring these children into the world. Keep up the good work! Miss ya, Luv ya!
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